Post by jeffolie on Apr 12, 2012 10:23:49 GMT -6
"MUM got the love"
This morning is a bad one as I strive to obey the fifth of the Ten Commandments ... Honor your father and your mother.
My mother most likely will die today or tomorrow ... her breathes per minute were a healthy 16 just 2 days ago, yesterday they were 10...Dad signed the DNR 2 days ago.
She has graced the world with her superior talents, intelligence and her 2 children, 1 a retire doctor and the other retired in 1998 with a law degree J.D. doctor of jurispudence from UCLA Law School, strive mightly to deal with her coming end. Our father has instilled high standards and our mother now about to die nurtured us with great success. "MUM got the love", many have expressed admiration and satisfaction from being in her life as she generously shared her many talented efforts and conversations.
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The commandment Honor your father and your mother is the fifth of the Ten Commandments in the Hebrew Bible. The commandment is generally regarded in Protestant and Jewish sources as the fifth in both the list in Exodus 20:1-21, and in Deuteronomy 5:1-23, though in Catholic counting this is the fourth commandment.[1]
These commandments are widely understood as moral imperatives by legal scholars, Jewish scholars, Catholic scholars, and Post-Reformation scholars.[2] The book of Exodus describes the Ten Commandments as being spoken by God,[3] inscribed on two stone tablets by the finger of God,[4] broken by Moses, and rewritten on replacements stones by the LORD.[5]
Precedence
According to the Mishneh Torah this commandment requires one to honor both of one's parents equally; there is no greater weight given to either the father or the mother. While in some parts of scripture, father is stated first, in others, mother comes first. This shows that the honor due to each is equal.[30][31]
While Jewish teaching holds that a married woman must honor her husband, there are also guidelines for how she may continue to honor her parents:
It is the duty of both men and women to honor their parents. However, a married woman, who owes devotion to her husband, is exempt from the precept of honoring her parents. Yet, she is obliged to do for the parents, all she can, if her husband does not object.
— Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:17
[edit] Requirements
Obedience: The commandment requires one to obey one's parents when the command given by a parent is reasonable and permissible under Jewish law. For example, if a parent asks a child to bring him/her water, s/he must obey. Because honoring God is above all mitzvah, if a parent asks a child to break a law of the Torah, s/he must refuse to obey.[10][11]
Everything that your father says to you, you are obliged to obey. But if he says to you: “Let us bow down to idols,” you must not obey him, lest you become an apostate.
— Midrash, Yalkut Shimoni, Proverbs 960
I am the Lord your God, and both you and your parents are equally bound to honor Me, therefore, you must not hearken to them to disregard My word.
— Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:15
A child is not required to obey if a parent says that s/he must marry a particular person, or must not marry a person s/he wishes to marry, provided the marriage is permissible by Jewish law.[32][33]
Letting parents know s/he is safe: A child who is traveling has an obligation to communicate with his/her parents to let them know s/he is safe in order to prevent them from worrying.[34]
After the parent's death: A child must continue to honor his/her parent after their deaths. This can be done by reciting kaddish for 11 months and on the yarzeit (anniversary of the parent's death), and by donating charity in the memory of the parent. The study of Torah is also considered to be reverence toward a parent, for it shows that a parent raised a worthy child.[35]
Other requirements: A child must never put a parent to shame, or speak arrogantly toward one's parent.[36]
A person who is told to do something by his/her mother for which his father does not like the result is not permitted to tell his/her father that his/her mother said to do that. This is because this could lead to his/her father cursing his/her mother.[37]
A child is not permitted to interrupt or contradict a parent, or to disturb a parent's sleep.[38]
[edit] Parents' obligations
As a child must respect his/her parents, a parent must respect his/her children in return. This gives him/her the ability to respect his/her parents.[39]
A father has the following obligations toward his children:[40]
To teach his children
To rebuke his children. A parent who fails to do so will lead his children into delinquency.
To refrain from showing favoritism toward his children. But a parent must never terrorize a child.[41]
To train a child according to his/her interests
To teach a child a trade
To teach a child how to swim
[edit] Rewards
The rewards for honoring one's parents are as follows:[42]
Long life (Exodus 20:12, Deuteronomy 5:16)
One's children will honor the follower of this commandment
[edit] Consequences
As with most terms of the covenant between God and Israel, there are consequences for disobedience as well as rewards for obedience:
Just as the reward for honoring father and mother is very great, the punishment for transgressing it is very great. And the one who afflicts his parents causes the shechinah [presence of God] to separate from him and harsh decrees fall upon him and he is given many sufferings. And even if life smiles on him in this life, he will surely be punished ...
— Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:4
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_your ... our_mother
This morning is a bad one as I strive to obey the fifth of the Ten Commandments ... Honor your father and your mother.
My mother most likely will die today or tomorrow ... her breathes per minute were a healthy 16 just 2 days ago, yesterday they were 10...Dad signed the DNR 2 days ago.
She has graced the world with her superior talents, intelligence and her 2 children, 1 a retire doctor and the other retired in 1998 with a law degree J.D. doctor of jurispudence from UCLA Law School, strive mightly to deal with her coming end. Our father has instilled high standards and our mother now about to die nurtured us with great success. "MUM got the love", many have expressed admiration and satisfaction from being in her life as she generously shared her many talented efforts and conversations.
======================================================
The commandment Honor your father and your mother is the fifth of the Ten Commandments in the Hebrew Bible. The commandment is generally regarded in Protestant and Jewish sources as the fifth in both the list in Exodus 20:1-21, and in Deuteronomy 5:1-23, though in Catholic counting this is the fourth commandment.[1]
These commandments are widely understood as moral imperatives by legal scholars, Jewish scholars, Catholic scholars, and Post-Reformation scholars.[2] The book of Exodus describes the Ten Commandments as being spoken by God,[3] inscribed on two stone tablets by the finger of God,[4] broken by Moses, and rewritten on replacements stones by the LORD.[5]
Precedence
According to the Mishneh Torah this commandment requires one to honor both of one's parents equally; there is no greater weight given to either the father or the mother. While in some parts of scripture, father is stated first, in others, mother comes first. This shows that the honor due to each is equal.[30][31]
While Jewish teaching holds that a married woman must honor her husband, there are also guidelines for how she may continue to honor her parents:
It is the duty of both men and women to honor their parents. However, a married woman, who owes devotion to her husband, is exempt from the precept of honoring her parents. Yet, she is obliged to do for the parents, all she can, if her husband does not object.
— Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:17
[edit] Requirements
Obedience: The commandment requires one to obey one's parents when the command given by a parent is reasonable and permissible under Jewish law. For example, if a parent asks a child to bring him/her water, s/he must obey. Because honoring God is above all mitzvah, if a parent asks a child to break a law of the Torah, s/he must refuse to obey.[10][11]
Everything that your father says to you, you are obliged to obey. But if he says to you: “Let us bow down to idols,” you must not obey him, lest you become an apostate.
— Midrash, Yalkut Shimoni, Proverbs 960
I am the Lord your God, and both you and your parents are equally bound to honor Me, therefore, you must not hearken to them to disregard My word.
— Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:15
A child is not required to obey if a parent says that s/he must marry a particular person, or must not marry a person s/he wishes to marry, provided the marriage is permissible by Jewish law.[32][33]
Letting parents know s/he is safe: A child who is traveling has an obligation to communicate with his/her parents to let them know s/he is safe in order to prevent them from worrying.[34]
After the parent's death: A child must continue to honor his/her parent after their deaths. This can be done by reciting kaddish for 11 months and on the yarzeit (anniversary of the parent's death), and by donating charity in the memory of the parent. The study of Torah is also considered to be reverence toward a parent, for it shows that a parent raised a worthy child.[35]
Other requirements: A child must never put a parent to shame, or speak arrogantly toward one's parent.[36]
A person who is told to do something by his/her mother for which his father does not like the result is not permitted to tell his/her father that his/her mother said to do that. This is because this could lead to his/her father cursing his/her mother.[37]
A child is not permitted to interrupt or contradict a parent, or to disturb a parent's sleep.[38]
[edit] Parents' obligations
As a child must respect his/her parents, a parent must respect his/her children in return. This gives him/her the ability to respect his/her parents.[39]
A father has the following obligations toward his children:[40]
To teach his children
To rebuke his children. A parent who fails to do so will lead his children into delinquency.
To refrain from showing favoritism toward his children. But a parent must never terrorize a child.[41]
To train a child according to his/her interests
To teach a child a trade
To teach a child how to swim
[edit] Rewards
The rewards for honoring one's parents are as follows:[42]
Long life (Exodus 20:12, Deuteronomy 5:16)
One's children will honor the follower of this commandment
[edit] Consequences
As with most terms of the covenant between God and Israel, there are consequences for disobedience as well as rewards for obedience:
Just as the reward for honoring father and mother is very great, the punishment for transgressing it is very great. And the one who afflicts his parents causes the shechinah [presence of God] to separate from him and harsh decrees fall upon him and he is given many sufferings. And even if life smiles on him in this life, he will surely be punished ...
— Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:4
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_your ... our_mother